by Amy Meyer Allen
“I like being on your team.” My friend's husband beamed as he spoke to her. They had just spent the day tag-teaming as care takers for their ill child while they each finished work they needed to do from home. Yet just a few years ago they had been separated for 18 months after discovering his deep-rooted sexual addiction. “I had prayed for a better marriage, but had no idea that God could make it this good after it was nearly destroyed,” my friend confided in me.
A marriage is about being a team not individuals with their own agendas. God says a husband and wife have been made into one flesh. If we take God seriously then we must approach our marriage in this way: as a team.
I have come to understand that my husband's sexual addiction is not just his problem, it's our problem. Since I am on the same team as my husband, I need to do my part to help him overcome this sin not by controlling him, but by serving by his side. I realize we have the same enemy: satan, who is hell-bent on destroying our marriage and will do anything it takes to accomplish his evil plan. But God tells us we are more than conquerors over everything that seeks to destroy us and our relationship with Christ. Here are four practical ways God has shown me how this works in our marriage.
If you think about it, even God Himself is in a team relationship: God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit. If we look at our own marriages as a team effort, with God at the center, there is no way we can lose!
“A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.” - Ecclesiastes 4:12 NLT
Father, I pray for marriages that are struggling, especially in the area of sexual addiction. Help them see themselves as a team. Help them realize that you put them together for a reason and You want them to fight for their marriage together. With You at the head, they can succeed. In Jesus' name I pray, Amen.
I was born in 1970 in Omaha, Nebraska. Although I went to church all my life, I didn't make Jesus Lord of my life until I was 29 years old. My real relationship with Him began when my marriage fell apart.